D R.
Yelp
I just don't feel welcome there anymore.
Not only do I not feel welcome, I feel sad...and a bit angry, but perhaps some of that is just part of my own grieving.
I have been going there ever since I could remember and have always loved visiting.
My Mom used to take me there when I was younger and while there we would feed some old bread to the ducks & turtles. As I got older & visited I would sometimes take leftover bread to enjoy those memories. My Mom had lost her parents within a few months of each other. Occasionally, I visit their graves & place flowers as they are buried there along with other extended family members/friends throughout the cemetery. My grandparents passed when I was very young & it wasn't until my Mom passed that I considered how hard that must have been for her. Some of the things I've pondered on my walks there.
Usually, I take my dog when visiting & walk about mostly staying on the road. Sometimes, if I see something interesting & want to take a photo, we venture off the road but otherwise we stay on the road. I am careful to make sure my dog isn't tromping/lying down on anyone's grave and I surely don't allow my dog to defecate on any. *If* my dog does have to use the restroom it is in a grave free area & I pick up any solid waste & dispose of it properly. That is nothing to say of any birds, squirrels, rats, possums, raccoons, vagrants, or stray dogs/cats, etc. that might pass through & defecate anywhere on the property, but as for me & my dog, we do respect the property while there.
I have walked my last dog & my current dog there on visits spanning the past 15 years or so. There has never been an issue. Most people wave & smile in passing. I realize not everyone likes dogs, but a big reason why I started bringing my dog was because someone had made me feel unsafe during a visit. I didn't return for a while but decided to start taking my dog when I could & it made me feel safer. They have cars that drive through, but they can't be everywhere and bad things can happen quickly.
So, yeah, I was a bit surprised to be approached by someone on my last visit & abruptly told that it was not a public park but private property and they did not want me walking my dog there. He did not offer his name and zipped off immediately in his little cart before I could think to ask any questions.
There doesn't seem to be anything on the website mentioning dogs aren't allowed. There is some mention of being part of the community, serving others, being a good neighbor, truly caring about people, etc...well, it's certainly not feeling that way for me, at least. Like I said, I've been taking my dog(s) there for years. I've seen others there with dogs and I've even seen a group of dogs (funny memory that one) traveling through on their own.
Being so fond of the place, I had considered FP in making arrangements for myself. Not for burial, as I'm planning to be cremated, but just for a service in the chapel & maybe encourage attendees to feed ducks as I have so much enjoyed on my visits. The price I was quoted was steep & I wasn't sure if it included cremation (over 3K), but I hadn't marked it off as a possibility. Well, I will just explore other options. If I can't even bring my dog there, walk around & feel welcomed and safe, I certainly don't want to "celebrate my life" there.
Your ad on the yellow pages site mentions "Each one of us is unique with our own story to tell." That's true. I will find somewhere else to have mine told. We also don't all grieve the same ways. Some of us grieve by taking walks through the cemetery with their dog.
I will share this part of my story with other people.
Just remember: this is private property. Once you & your family gives them money and turns over the remains of your loved ones in their care, they don't have to treat you with any dignity or respect. They can treat you however they choose.